Be a good dad

Be a good dad...

I would like to walk you through something that i have never become. It's about the day you became a father. when was that? Obviously it was the day your kid was born. But if you think deeper, you could see that, he was there in his mothers womb. So i want to say it as the moment your kid was a sperm

Funny isn't it. I want to share some of my opinion as well as one of my professors opinion.I don't   want to disclose his name, but he used to come our Jesus Youth prayer meeting and giving lectures about marriage. I will take some of his point ,add with mine. It is your choice whether   you can buy it or not.

Porn-the enemy

Well! Here the enemy is porn. We all know  it is a common enemy of bachelors as well as married people but let's focus on the marriage and the family formation. Have you ever thought of how bad it was if your kid was born from the act aroused by a porn movie or while you were making love to your partner , the porn was also playing in your laptop. 

Can you predict the future of your kid.how bad he can be. It can be depended on probability ,but why do you want to toss your kids future when you have full control of it.it is more than a shame. it is the fact that you spoiled your kids future. He was born not from love but something else.Teaching says porn should never come in marriage.

Preparation

Many of us are having a habit of starting new thing with prayers. Children are your future and your hope. Why cant you make them  with preparation. I read or heard that the greeks prepare for the union for more than 3 months. Some  bhramins do the intercourse at 3 am. Well, I am not saying you should put your alarm at 3AM and make love to your partner. It should be a deciosn that both of you want a kid and from that moment the prepararion starts. it should be based on love but not lust. Studies shows that children were born with preparation have shown moral values in their  life.

We human , many of us start new thing with prayers. So why can't you purify yourself,go to church/temple ,stay away from sex for a while as an abstinence and prepare the C day. Creation day. remember it is the day you become the creator. Why can't you prepare  bit more. It is a myth, but it says , you can even ask what you want ,you can determine the gender if you want. Someone will argue me that you can't say when it will happen. Well, I would say that is the problem with being ordinary.

It is all about , belief , prayers and hope. Have you ever imagined your father telling you that you were an accident. So your kid want the same. Kid should be telling you " plan me dady, be a good dad  from the first day"  

Again, this passage is not for atheist .This is for who believes something exists that scientifically not proven.

Every day is a gift

A beautiful day and a dream!

That day, I waved at everyone, wished a good day by my smile. I felt like I got another chance to see the sunshine again, to listen the birds singing. I went to the tea shop and had a tea. Felt like giving, I told him to keep the change. I remembered my teacher’s word.”Loka samastha sukino bhavantu “(May All Beings Be Happy). I felt the peace that I used to get when I say this word to the world after my meditation and yoga. I used to talk to trees near to my house; mango trees. It is still mystery whether those trees flowered because I said to them that I love them. Anyway, the days I had yoga and meditation, I never wanted to quarrel with anyone. I could a see a god in everyone.

I realised my enemy is within me. It is nothing but fear. I identified that same feeling pulling down when I need to talk, when I need to have an interview, when I need to take presentation. The same fear gives anxiety about the future. I always tell my friends don’t look for hope in the future, make for it now. I used to say three things I hate in my life are ethanol, Chelsea and session variable. Since the day I knew wines contain ethanol, I couldn’t hate it anymore. Why would i hate Chelsea(those who don’t know football ,it is a football club not a girl). I don’t fear it anymore as I don’t hate .Forget about session variables!!. One day I thought I should say I hate fear but I grew up from that, if I hate fear means I really fear ‘fear’. Hatred has gone from mind as fear when I chanted LOKA SAMASTHA SUKINO BHAVANTU.

I want to share one incident I had in my life. It was one of the days that I started my morning, saying that mantra. I went to city for some purpose, while coming back; I took a bus ticket to my local place. But accidently bus conductor heard as another place that was two bucks lesser than my ticket. I didn’t check the ticket I gave him the money. I felt something different than normal fare but I thought he may be giving discount. I ignored the case and started journey. After an hour, when the bus reached at the place up to what the ticket was valid for, he started shouting at me. He said that I have to get down at this place since I was cheating him to save two rupees. I said I never tried that, I took the ticket for another place but you gave me the wrong ticket. I told him that I can give you ten bucks but i don’t want to deceive you. He never stopped shouting at me .He accused me as a thief. I felt bad and I shouted at him. I forgot the mantra I chanted in that morning. I forgot all the things about love. I couldn’t see god in him but devil. I started fighting and I put a 10 rupee note into his pocket and got down from the bus.

I was so angry but the next day when I woke up for the meditation, I felt bad. I felt like there is no meaning what I am dong if I can’t share to the people. I really hated him because he created a public humiliation for me that I never want to do even in my dream cheating for two rupees. But I realised it was my mistake I should have asked him when I felt less in fare. I thought he was acting friendly. I tried to think from his point of view and I could understand his anger. After that meditation I could really say I love this world, I could forgive him. Even though I was a failure to that mantra on that moment but after meditation I felt I really wished for his auspiciousness.

Well! I forgot where I was. Okay I just had my tea and I was just walking towards the church. Many thoughts filled up minds. I didn’t know why I felt this day as so good. Was it because I woke up early? Was it because of the horrible dream that woke me up at 6.30 am?

While walking to my apartment after the holly mass, I felt as I am rejuvenated. I felt as every day is a gift and it is beautiful. I felt as something new. Something that you called as love, something you wanted desperately and something always wants you desperately but you never turned and that is love of god. It is new every day. You never get bored. There you have answers, there you have freedom and you won’t be sad at anymore. You never walk lonely even if you are walking through the desert. Difference is whether you are trying to taste it or not. Like you never know the taste of the apple that I tasted. Yes, we all are human and we have weakness, but at least a day if you start by blessing prosperous to the world, and if you can see a mere change in that day, please understand you are living in that day in light. Are we living in a day in light or dark? Sun rises everyday and bring lights to the world. If you are still waking up with the despair you had before your sleep, my friend you are still in dark, there is no sunrise for you. Let the sun rise through you. Let the god’s love flow through.

I wish I could be that sun giving ray of hope to those had sunrises but still in dark. I wish I could start every day feeling the love and blessing the world. This is my wish, my dream and this what I want to be; I feel the new taste of love everyday and start the day by blessing LOKA SAMASTHA SUKINO BHAVANTU and be the light!!!.

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